Be different this year! Don’t do it!
Be different this year! Don’t do it!
Firstly, I hope you have lost weight and I hope that whatever you’ve lost, you are happy with it. Don’t waste energy on “It should have been more”. It is what it is, you can’t change the past, but you can change the future! Negative self talk will not help you succeed! Write in your journal what you have learnt up to now. What are you really proud of?
For now, let’s focus on motivation. Have you heard people saying “I’ve lost my motivation”? Perhaps you’ve thought it yourself today. It’s as if motivation is some magical “thing” that you’ve either got or you haven’t.
The truth is that there are different types of motivation and it constantly shifts. If you are not feeling it, you need to read this post and then have a look at capturing yours. Continue reading “Day 21 of 30 – It’s Weigh Day and time to look at your Motivation”
So you are 20 days in – two thirds of the way! Congratulations! What a great achievement!
Tomorrow is your 3rd weigh day and I wonder what is going through your mind. I’m guessing that your focus is pretty much all about that little number that comes up on the scale – like it is life or death, like your whole self worth is affected by it and it determines your entire future! I get it. I’m human. I know the feeling!
But I don’t want you to discount what’s going on inside you. Continue reading “Day 20 of 30 – If your body could talk right now, it would be doing a Whoooop Whoooop!”
I’ll get in early in the day in the hopes that I can stop you from succumbing to temptation this evening!
More people give up a diet on a Friday night than any other time! Let me help you understand why.
Think about the reason why you generally buy take outs on a Friday night. It’s usually because you are really tired for a start so it saves you having to stop at the store, buy the food and then cook it all the while putting up with the kids who are grumpy and fighting because they are tired. Then it’s because you sit with the food and a glass of wine or beer and……r e l a x. Because the couple of glasses of alcohol have relaxed you, you become giggly and a little frisky and goodness gracious, you and partner indulge in some great sex instead of the usual argument! Can you see the “association” building up? Takeaways and wine soon = relaxation, fun, feeling full, feeling satisfied and the weekend is here! The longer you’ve been doing take away Friday, the longer the brain has set a neural pathway.
It soon gets to a point where, if you don’t have the take aways, you may actually find yourself feeling really irritable and not understanding why. You are changing the neural pathway and the brain is not happy!
I’m sure you know that takeaways and wine are keeping you overweight and if you are serious about losing weight, the take aways at the very least have to go. You need to find a new way to tackle Friday nights. My advice to you to navigate this change is;
Let me know how it goes!
If you constantly have your eye on your end goal, you are going to make your journey so much harder than it needs to be. Yes it can be good to have the goals, the graphs and the projections, but you can jeopardise everything by making them more important than what’s happening today!
In Alcoholic’s Anonymous, they have a great mantra which says “Just for today“. There’s a very good reason psychologically. If you tell an alcoholic they are never ever in their life ever able to have a drink again, the idea of quitting becomes overwhelming. If you tell them that they have to stop drinking “just for today”, it feels frightening but a lot more manageable. That’s why they count the days, because every day sober gets them closer to the never again. And it works!
Continue reading “Day 17 of 30 – Don’t focus on the end. Focus on today.”
You can know all there is to know about the body, how it works, what you should feed it, know all about how, when and why to do exercise …… and be fat! In fact I’ve had quite a few doctors and nurses come to me for help to lose weight! They are far more qualified than I will ever be! Why am I able to help them?
Because weight loss is about;
With credit to the wonderful Helen Golstein http://www.selfcompassioncoaching.co.uk,
“If you say you know, but you don’t do, you don’t know“.
Well let me start by asking 2 things; Are you still with us? Have you lost 1lb or more? If the answer is Yes to both, Congratulations!!! “Yes, but” I hear some of you starting. No BUTS!!!! You are still here and you’ve lost more than one pound, so something has changed for the better and that’s a positive result. Now the key is what to do with it! Jump to my third paragraph.
If the answer is no, I presume you will be doing what you “normally” do – berate yourself, feel ashamed, angry and contemplate giving up. How about changing that unproductive, trapping cycle of thoughts? Continue reading “14 of 30 – Is it a whooop whoooop Weigh day?”