Are you one of those people who when someone compliments you on how much weight you’ve lost, you immediate respond with “but I’ve got so much more to lose“. Or when someone compliments you on your hair or dress, you counter with “she cut it too short” or “this old rag?”.
This is Discounting. It’s when we play down our achievements and many of us, particularly those who have been overweight for a long time, do it completely out of awareness. There are a few reasons why it’s important for you to become aware of when you are doing it and to try and stop it.
1 Human beings need recognition (strokes) to thrive and grow emotionally. There is SO much nastiness and negativity in the world and so few people who offer sincere recognition, that we need to learn to give it to ourselves.
2 When a person loses a lot of weight in a short time, it can take years for the mind to catch up. I know people who have lost 50 kgs (over 100lbs) but in their heads, they still think of themselves as being the bigger size. They will automatically go to the bigger racks for clothes and are surprised when a smaller size fits. Absorbing positive feedback by which I mean hearing it, saying “thank you” with no negative follow on and dealing with the uncomfortable emotion it may raise, will help your mind to catch up with your body.
3 Our mind does not know the difference between real or imagined. If you constantly talk down to yourself, your energy and motivation will drain and you will give up your plan. If you say daily positive, present time affirmations, you lift your energy to keep going. Try saying to yourself right now “I am awesome” and see what it does for you.
4 If you are a “comfort eater”, you eat (unhelpful stuff) when you feel “discomfort”. Overweight people generally hate any form of attention so even being paid a compliment can feel like “discomfort” and can make you overeat. The more you practice accepting, feeling and breathing through compliments, the more you break the connection between “discomfort” and unhelpful food.