What are Rituals and what do they have to do with your diet?

So what exactly do we mean by rituals?  They are things we do in a certain way over and over and which give us meaning, purpose and a sense of belonging to others.     It could be Easter, Christmas, the Sunday family roast, birthday celebrations, church, work meetings,  etc etc etc.

Look at the list above and ask yourself which ritual do you know of which does not include food.    It will be a very small percentage if you can find any at all!

The thing to learn is that when you link certain foods to a certain ritual, ie. chocolate Easter eggs to the Easter weekend for year after year as a child, a neural pathway is set.   Even when you are a 60 year old adult, that same neural pathway will be activated at Easter and you will find yourself wanting chocolate Easter eggs.    The drive to have them can be over-whelming!  Continue reading “What are Rituals and what do they have to do with your diet?”

It’s so hard to find healthy food out there!

I find sticking to my diet program pretty easy for 2 reasons;  1)  because the program I follow is delicious and very filling, I’m seldom hungry and 2) because the lifestyle I lead doesn’t mean I’m surrounded by temptation.

BUT ………!!!!    Oh my goodness I struggled over the Easter weekend.    I spent the weekend with my sister and her 3 children.    At my home it is just my husband and I so there is difference no 1.   Children in the house, all of whom are constantly hungry and it feels as though one meal leads straight into the next one.   My poor sister is constantly either planning, shopping, preparing, cooking or cleaning up from food!!!   Then of course there were the chocolate eggs!   Loads of them and loads of sweets all day every day!

Difference no 2 was that we took the girls on a few outings and everywhere we took them, there was literally nothing healthy to eat!   It was all fizzy drinks, ice creams, sandwiches, pizza, chips, fish fingers, chicken nuggets all with tomato sauce.  Continue reading “It’s so hard to find healthy food out there!”

Are you wasting valuable time?

So many of us do not want to hear it when we are told that “losing weight” will improve our ailments.   We become angry and defensive and prefer to have a “quick fix” tablet.    We want the easy way out.

Even when we look into  a diet, we look for the one that allows us our “cheats” or that will magically make us lose weight without us starting to exercise or give up on anything.

Since I started “eating clean”, I have been amazed at what has improved in my life.   The first thing I noticed was that I could go down stairs like a normal person instead of one step, one step and holding on for dear life.    Hmmm.    So it was just some weight (trust me I’ve still got quite a lot!!) rather than the non existent cartilage I was telling everyone it was. Continue reading “Are you wasting valuable time?”

If you are waiting till you look perfect, you will never get there!

Of course we all want a perfect body but guess how many of us will get one?  None!!!   Not even those who spend a small fortune (or large fortune!!) on surgery end up with perfect bodies.

Yet sub-consciously that is what many of us chase.

We are very hard on ourselves when we are dieting if we don’t stick perfectly to plan, berating ourselves, putting ourselves down and worst yet, giving up because we “can’t do it”.

We go into shops to buy an outfit and get upset that it doesn’t sit perfectly on the lumps and bumps or in that awful artificial light in the shop.

We dread going to our weight loss meetings in case we don’t lose as much as someone else. Continue reading “If you are waiting till you look perfect, you will never get there!”

Being “judged” will never help someone lose weight!

My son is fanatical about cricket and at the grand age of 38 plays for a local county team.   I’m just as fanatical about sitting in the sun watching him every Saturday afternoon and seldom miss a game.   I sit quietly minding my own business and usually the opposing team are sitting close by whilst their team bats and my son’s team are bowling / fielding.  I overhear very interesting, often very male oriented banter!

I also overhear comments made by the team and from time to time they are about my son.    I never respond but on one occasion, a player was chirping with comments like “that guy can’t run”, “he’s hopeless at catching” etc.  When he said “that guy runs like he’s disabled” which was followed by raucous laughter from the team, I couldn’t hold myself back any more.  I turned to them  quietly and calmly asked “would you feel differently if you knew he has had two hip replacements?”.   Needless to say they felt very embarrassed when I told them my son had his first hip replacement at 23 and his second at 35.

As overweight people, we know how it feels to constantly be unfairly judged. Continue reading “Being “judged” will never help someone lose weight!”

What’s your motivation for losing weight?

Many people start a diet for reasons of vanity.   I ask all my clients on their first session what they hate about being “fat” and most of them get very embarrassed to admit that they “don’t like” their body, “feel ashamed” of their legs, hate the fact they can’t wear a bikini or have “gross flabby skin”.   It’s as if they expect me to judge them for not liking their bodies.

I never do.  I think humans have an inbuilt motivation to look our best because that in turn helps us feel happy and contented.   I also believe that we are all individuals and entitled to feel what we feel.    I often hear the expression “I should be grateful and happy because my life is not nearly as bad as hers”.  Continue reading “What’s your motivation for losing weight?”

You need time to Recover from illness and surgery.

Over time, I have come across many clients who have had surgery whilst on their weight loss journey, some anticipated and some a total surprise.   One thing that is pretty consistent with them all is the impact it has on them afterwards.

Almost without exception, they all find themselves very weepy and down about 4 weeks after the op.   They talk about just not feeling themselves, feel overwhelmed, somewhat down and depressed and that life feels too much let alone the diet!

I’m no medical expert but I suspect this has to do with anaesthetic. Continue reading “You need time to Recover from illness and surgery.”

Are you afraid of fat?

Are you terrified to eat fat?   Do you avoid it at all costs and constantly look for the low fat foods when you shop?    Do you cut the fat off your meat?   You could be doing yourself a great disservice and keeping yourself overweight.  Hang on ….. don’t run away!   Just be open minded enough to read what I have to say and then be curious enough to research it a little more.

First of all, think about this.    Why do you think it is that every chef uses loads of butter or olive oil when cooking?    Because fat makes food taste fantastic!   My husband makes the best scrambled eggs you’ve ever tasted.   When I watched him to find out what was so different to how I made them, it was simply the loads of butter he added!

Second.   The other thing that fat does is make you feel full.   It’s satiating.   When you increase the amount of fat you eat, you feel full and therefore eat less.  Continue reading “Are you afraid of fat?”

Are biscuits controlling your life?

Of course by biscuits, I could just as easily be talking about Haribos, chocolate or ice cream…. or any other “goody” that you feel you cannot live without.

It may sound silly and trivial to talk about a biscuit ruining a person’s life but honestly, the relationship between us and food can be incredibly powerful and should not be underestimated.

I recall a client I had once who would diet beautifully all week but on Tuesday night’s would undo it all by having tea with a few biscuits.   This went on for weeks and weeks.  Continue reading “Are biscuits controlling your life?”

I’m celebrating today!!!! Would you be happy with this progress?

I hope you won’t mind if today’s post is all about me but I feel the need to share my success.    I’ve reached a major milestone today in that I weigh under 200 lbs!   I’m going to make the most of it as if I lose one more pound, I will be less than 90 kgs and after another 3 lbs, I’ll be in the 13 stones!   Whichever way you measure your weight, this is significant and I honestly cannot remember (thanks fibro fog!) when I last weighed this amount.

I started this journey on 1st July 2017, 14 days after I had the parathyroid tumour removed.   I had no idea how long I had the adenoma for so I was pretty confused about the all the symptoms over the years; pain, chronic fatigue, very bad sleep, depression and a whole lot more.   My primary goal was to eat very healthy food and get my body back to what was “normal” so I could discover what symptoms I still had.    Weightloss has been a wonderful side effect.

Here is what I have achieved / learnt in the past 21 months; Continue reading “I’m celebrating today!!!! Would you be happy with this progress?”