Any weight loss endeavour is likely to take time. For most people you are looking at months to years and it’s hard work to stay motivated, enthused, disciplined and focused. All of us get tired from time to time.
I’ve been on my health plan since 1 July 2017 and I would say I’m about half way there. I’m very proud of my commitment and performance and most of all, amazed that I managed to start exercising because it was so terrifying for me. (I have fibromyalgia / cfs so exercise is painful, causes flare ups and post exertion exhaustion). Recently, for lots of reasons, I have let the exercise go whilst inside knowing, I need to get back to it. Continue reading “A good friend can be a powerful motivator!”
What do you think of when you hear the word “Boundaries” when related to diet? Most people think of restriction, rules, deprivation, authority, someone wagging a finger and saying “no” to you, and punishment for not sticking to them.
What if you were to change your perception?
It’s common sense that anyone who is overweight has lost their sense of boundaries; their body is physically bigger than it was designed to be and they struggle to know when to say no to food, drink and possibly other things. Continue reading “Boundaries may be your secret to success…”
Anyone who is overweight knows that the world is not very sympathetic to us and our behaviour. We are accused of being lazy, slovenly, greedy and suffer loads of prejudice! I think we need more understanding!
If you think of other addictions like smoking or drinking, you can live without cigarettes or booze and staying away from places where they are is a tool used to remain abstinent. You cannot live without food so you can’t avoid it! You are bombarded with the very thing that is holding you to ransom 3 times a day, every day, for the rest of your life!
On top of that, food addiction is a double whammy!
From a physical point of view, not only does sugar light up the same part of the brain as cocaine, it only takes 7 seconds from being put in your mouth to inducing pleasure. It also causes spikes of energy which are countered by insulin which then send signals that you need more energy! These are all really powerful, sub-conscious urges that can become over-whelming.
Then there are the emotional addictions that you probably aren’t even aware of! Do you find yourself popping into the garage every day on the way home to pick up a chocolate or packet of crisps? Do you always have wine and take-aways on a Friday night to relax? Do you want a sandwich when work becomes too stressful? Do you “have to” have a piece of cake every time you go to your favourite coffee shop? Do you sneak down to the kitchen at 2am for biscuits when you can’t sleep? If there is a pattern that links a food to a behaviour, the chances are it’s become an addiction.
The wonderful thing is that awareness is the first step to healing. When you become aware of your addiction, you can start to change it.
As human beings, we are comfortable with the status quo. Change of any sort increases anxiety which is often the adrenaline rush we need to get out of our comfort zone.
Most people who decide to lose weight have thought about it and planned it for days, weeks or sometimes years. The people closest to them often haven’t and are suddenly confronted with a positive, strong, independent person who they don’t really know. It forces a change in the dynamics of the relationship. Sadly this often results in husbands, mothers and best friends unconsciously sabotaging your efforts. Think of the parent who keeps telling you that you need to lose weight but then offers you cake when you cry. Or the best friend who tells you that you are no fun anymore because you don’t want to get drunk with her every weekend. Or the husband who feels jealous and threatened by his now very sexy wife who is dressing in close fitting dresses instead of baggy blacks.
You will need to be really strong, understanding and resilient to push past it all!
Think carefully about what kind of support is right for you and what will keep you motivated. The structure of a weekly weigh in with the right person is invaluable for motivation and accountability.
When it comes to support, if you go to a group where they clap for every pound lost, that implies that for that week you have been “good”. So what happens in the weeks when you have stuck to the program 100%, expect to have lost a couple of pounds but instead you’ve stayed the same or put on? Hmmmm. No Clap…. Does this mean you are “bad”. It certainly makes a lot of people feel that way and when added to their feelings of disappointment and confusion, often results in …. overeating! And so the cycle continues.
Perhaps a well trained counsellor who shows no reaction either way will benefit you more.