If you are wondering what on earth I’m getting at, let me explain. When you embark on any diet, you are going to have loads of people telling you what you should do, what you shouldn’t do, what you need to wear, how much of this your must eat or drink, how much exercise you should do, when to stop, how you look etc etc etc. If you listen to every one of them, you will be a totally confused bunch of anxiety with no idea of what direction to go in!!!
In the vast majority of overweight people, lack of self esteem and confidence is a given so they are not in an emotionally robust state to stand up to a lot of the comments. Continue reading “Learn to be Assertive with what is right for you! 10 ways to be Assertive.”
Over the years I have heard hundreds of people tell me that more than anything else in life they want to lose weight. They sob from the bottom of their hearts and say how much they hate being overweight and I can feel their sincerity.
Then when I suggest what they need to do, it’s a different story!
Let’s take diet drinks for example. Continue reading “Are you really sure you want to lose weight and gain health?”
As you come to the end of your 30 day challenge, you should be feeling more “in control” than you did the day before you started.
Sometimes people wonder which came first – the out of control eating or the out of control life! One thing is for sure, if your life feels chaotic and overwhelming, it’s very likely that your eating will feel chaotic and overwhelming.
The sad fact is that life is unfair. Continue reading “Day 29 of 30 – Your reasons for starting may not be your reasons for finishing!”
By today, you should be able to see and feel the physical difference in your body. I hope other people have noticed and commented that you are looking good but if not, don’t worry! People generally don’t notice until you have lost 2 stone (21kgs) and whether people notice or not, don’t let it detract from what you have achieved!
I hope you are reaping all the rewards of feeling better, feeling stronger, sleeping well and having loads of energy. Don’t forget to check over your original motivation list and tick off what you have achieved so far and perhaps add some new ones for the future.
Can I suggest you do your measurements and take another set of photographs today? Continue reading “Day 28 of 30 – 4th Weigh Day!”
When you say things to yourself like “I have to stick to this diet”, how do you feel? Pressure! Pressure is likely to make you give up!
Change that statement to “I choose to stick to this diet”, how does that feel? Empowering huh! A simple statement can literally be the difference between success and giving up!
You visit a friend for tea and with your cuppa, she offers a plate of your favourite biscuits and by default you reply “I shouldn’t“. That feels like deprivation to me. Now change it to, “I’d love a couple but I’m going to choose not too today”. Doesn’t that feel awesome?
When you say “I neeeed“, it sounds like a desperate plead. When you say “I choose“, it sounds like you are in control and have the power.
Remember that our thoughts, feelings and behaviour are all linked. If you can change the way you think to be more empowering and uplifting, you will build resilience and achieve your goals!
What unhelpful thoughts could you change for the better?
If you’ve made it this far without a lapse, well done you! Keep going and do share with us what has helped you keep your focus.
To start with, let me clarify that a Lapse is when you don’t do what you planned or intended to do. It’s not the same as when you know you have a dinner in a week and you fully intend to break your diet for that night.
Let’s face it, if you have for example, 3 stone to lose, you are going to be on diet for a minimum of 3 months and it’s almost guaranteed that you will have a lapse at some stage. They happen when; Continue reading “Day 24 of 30 – Lapse or Learning Opportunity?”