There are thousands, hang on …. millions of people out there who love the fact that you are overweight. They will claim that they care and that they have a plan to help you. They will be really evangelical about which ever program worked for them and just as passionate that it will work for you. They will show you impressive before and after photos. But do they really care about you and your weight? Continue reading “Be careful who you talk to!”
Many of our fears are irrational. We are born with a fear of loud noises and of falling. The others we collect along the way. Anxiety or panic attacks happen when our “Protection” hormones, adrenaline and cortisol go into overdrive. Cortisol and adrenaline are our best friends when they work the way they were designed to but sadly, for many reasons, they can go out of whack and make life very difficult and even impossible. Continue reading “Facing your fear will free you to live!”
Ever get that feeling that something is wrong? It niggles at you, giving you weird little signals that may seem silly if you verbalise them to others.
I used to have that with my health. I just had this deep sense that something was not quite right. At times it became overwhelming and I’d head off to a doctor or specialist to be told “you’re just tired”, “it’s depression – take these” or “you need some counselling”. I did all of those things and still something didn’t feel right. Continue reading “Trust your gut instinct!”
Isn’t it a bit strange how much power we give to that number on a little metal machine? It can determine our sense of worthiness, self esteem, self confidence, what we wear, what we won’t wear, our mental state, our relationships, what effort we put into looking good, what we spend, how we feel and perform at work, what we think others think of us. I’m sure there are a few more that I’ve missed.
At the end of the day, it is just a number. A number on a machine that it not always accurate, that changes depending on how much water you’ve had, what food you’ve eaten, whether you’ve poo’d today or not, what medication you’re on, whether you’ve exercised and what time of the day you decide to stand on it.
I’d like to encourage you to change your thinking. Focus only on what you put in your mouth. Do your research and find a program that sits comfortably with you then put all your energy into sticking to it. Every time you put something in your mouth, ask yourself “Will this benefit me?”, “Will this help me reach my goal to be happier and healthier?” If the answer is no, don’t eat it.
I can guarantee you, that if you can’t master what you put in your mouth, your body will shrink, you will become healthier, happier and will no longer be ruled by a couple of numbers.
Our brains record stuff just like a computer and will play back similar scenarios just as a computer program would. In that program, our brain records the feeling (emotion), the thought and the behaviour.
When your brain plays it back, it will find a feeling, link it to a thought and then link it to a behaviour.
Or it will take a behaviour and link it to a thought and a feeling. The 3 are inextricably linked and this can be destructive or a great tool for successful change. Here is a common example;
You’ve been really good on your diet and are excited to see your consultant to weigh. In your head, you are expecting to lose 3lbs. You stand on the scale and you’ve lost 2lbs. The feeling is a sinking one, feeling disappointed, gutted, then angry and frustrated. Your thoughts are “this is SO unfair, this diet is useless, I’m no good, my consultant will think I’m lying, how can I admit this to my friends”. The action is – either go out and eat as much chocolate as possible to help you feel better or head for the hills and give up the diet completely, thinking you could look at doing a different plan when you’re feeling better. You’ve done this 20 times in the past 20 years, are bigger than ever, and feel gutted that you are stuck in the cycle again.
Through all of this, you have lost sight of the fact you lost 2lbs!
The key is to learn how to change the feeling, the thought or the behaviour. Catch the feeling and feel it. You will not die, I promise! Perhaps you can express it to your consultant and tell her how you are feeling, or you can cry or simply take a little time to think things through. Then catch the thought and change it. If necessary, say out loud “Well I haven’t lost 3 and I feel pretty down but I have lost 2lb and that’s great. It’s success. Its a positive result! And I’m willing to be happy with that. Chances are that you will then stay on your program, put the weigh in behind you and keep going, all of which helps you break the destructive cycle and finally lose the weight.